Tasaduq Maqbool
We are living in dog-eat-dog world where people can do anything for their own gains and interests. We left no stone unturned to become successful and achieve the pre-determined goals. However, in the struggle of life, many people forget to make the best use of their assets. Language is one among sumptuous assets of human beings. The words have endless power and can be used constructively or destructively. They have the ability to heal, inspire, help and support provided that they are used constructively. However, if used destructively they can humiliate, hurt and can be jeopardous as well. It is a common saying that, “we should think before we speak”. This quote is as evergreen as that! Words are blessed with colossal faculty for they can bring consensus in the recipient’s life. Having said that, they indeed can prove a fatal blow as well. Single tongue can trigger absolutely different feelings in people depending upon the choice of words made by its user. Besides kind words, the tone of your voice can prove even more weighty. The tone should be sincere enough to elicit desired responses and should not be exasperating. It should not be humiliating or somewhat ostentatious. However, at times the circumstances demand silence and we need not to be a bumblebee but should strive hard to develop the habit of listening as well. Instead of speaking gibberish, we should prefer silence. Plato says, “wise men speak because they have something to say, fools because they have to say something”. Dead right it is! Introspect yourself and figure out some instances when your warm language had set things right for you. I have absolute certitude about hundreds of such instances in you. Good conversational skills can actually help you to achieve your goals in jiffy and fix your ‘people problems’. Chit-chat someday with an astute businessman and you will come to know the secret behind his success. During my clinical posting in M. M. A. B. M Hospital anantnag, this year, i became acquainted with the hidden and abstruse significance of language. I observed and carried out the switching of acrid and noncooperative patients into accommodating and tranquil souls. This flip-flop was catalyzed by the use of warm and empethetic language. We used to give emotional support with kind and genteel words and trigger the patients to vent their pent-up emotions. Meanwhile, i got acquainted with a genteel, polite and astute health professional there namely Mr Tajamul Majeed wani. He was absolutely at home in using the appropriate words and establishing a professional relationship. Because of his polite and polished leid, we could make an above-board relationship with him.
The language of kindness is a vital tool used to give emotional support to mankind. Some have warm words for you while some vomit out the harsh ones.
In order to achieve a state of harmony, we need to be careful with our words. One kind word can help you win friends and make a special place in the hearts of people. Because words once said cannot be retrieved so we need to be absolutely sagacious in selecting appropriate words. We need not to vomit out whatever we like rather we should contemplate before starting a conversation. You can arouse arouse whatever feelings you want in other person if you could shrewdly make the proper selection of words and tone. This combo can really make an enormous difference. People hooked on drugs and indulged in other anti-social activities can be brought back on track. The kind and warm words can persuade them to shun such evil practices. Indeed there are examples of people in our community who have been reformed by curtain lectures. Having said that, there are other instances as well where people have turned into misanthropic and disruptive ones after receiving persistent rebuking and reprimand from others. Hence much leans on words, they can make a grave difference. The language of kindness is a vital tool used to give emotional support to mankind. Some have warm words for you while some vomit out the harsh ones. Need of the hour is to realise that it is not everybody’s cup of tea to speak “The Language OF KINDNESS “.
(The author is a content writer.Views is his own)
