Being a Girl is Not Easy

Being a girl is not easy. In our society, when it is known that a girl is in the mother’s womb, she is killed in the womb. If somehow she survives, she is considered a burden on her family, but I don’t understand why daughters are considered a burden while our Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) had four daughters. Our Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H) said that daughters take their parents to heaven. A girl has to struggle a lot in her life. There is a lot of discrimination between a girl and a boy. A boy is always given a lot of love and by saying that “Girls belong to another house” less attention is given to them. Her freedom is snatched from her. She is kept as a prisoner in her own home. If she came late from somewhere it is said to her you are a girl, the girls don’t came late. Don’t speak loudly, don’t wear this, don’t go here, don’t go there, “you are a girl” what will society think. All these things a girl has to hear, when she gets little older, she is taught to cook “you have to go another house” by saying all these words they torture her mentally. If she doesn’t do her household chores, she will be not allowed to go to school. By mistake if she wakes up late in the morning, she is taunted. Don’t talk to them, don’t make male friends, stay away from them, be like a Girl. Even she doesn’t have the freedom to see her dreams. After 10th it is said to her “Choose Medicalstream , you are a girl, you will become doctor” but no one cares for her dreams, it’s all a teenage has to deal with. When she becomes adult, her parents tell her “we can’t afford your fees.” So, she does a part time job, openher tuition classes because she doesn’t want that her parents became worried for her, even so she has to listen, “that you are a girl you have to go another house”. When she becomes mature it is said to her “when will you get married, how long will a young girl stay at home?”. “Oh! Your skin tone is black, apply this cream otherwise who will marry you?”. “Oh! You are fatty, lose your weight otherwise who will marry you?”. She spends half of her life listening all these so called things.
Now, when the time of marriage came, the boy’s family decides the girl’s character by how she has made a tea. It doesn’t matter what the girl does rather they say “does she cook food?” and how much dowry will be given? Half of girls commit suicide, when their poor fathers were not able to provide any. If someone gives itthen after marriage, they say to her “what have you taken from your mother”? and tease her. We want this, we want that and so many girls commit suicide after their marriage. After a marriage, a girl is not allowed to study or do a job, how may girls’ education have ended like this and then she becomes a house wife, then a husband tells her wife “what do you do all day”?. Girls suffer a lot but never complain. Girls are not inferior to boys. Why should boys have all the fun? There is no field where girls cannot reach like Valentina Tereshkova is the first female astronaut. Hima Das is the first Indian athlete. Girls need to give freedom and support. The world is empty without girls. Why the girls don’t do any job after marriage boys also should take responsibilities. We all know that girls have to go another house but at least our family should understand that they also need respect and love. They should treat the girl equally like they treat the boy. Girls are blessings from the Almighty Allah. Only a girl can carry a pain for nine months. Only a girl can bear the pressure of her marriage, she can handle her family issues, only she can sacrifice her dreams for her family. She has the power to stand up in front of everyone . We girls are strong and courageous. Wegirls are beautiful in every colour and in every shape. . Seriously being a girl is not easy and no one can take the place of a Girl in this world. Girls are precious diamonds. They need to be preserved.
By: The budding writer is a student.
(The author is a student. The views, opinions, facts, assumptions, presumptions and conclusions expressed in this article are author’s own and aren’t necessarily in accord with the views of “Kashmir Horizon”.