Shah Khalid
Etimologically, the Word Kufa’ah means egalitarian, equivalent, comparable, or similar. In the constellation of Islamic thought, Kufa’ah is meant that a prospective husband is expected to be comparable to the prospective bride in terms of religion, education, wealth, position, degree and so on. Islam doesn’t sponcer any discrimination on the basis of caste, lineage, sub-caste and ethnicity while arranging marriages. Islam doesn’t oppose marriages in different community, superior or inferior, however the Kufa’ah, Parity in marriages is not prohibited in Islam. Arranging a marriage is an important social issue so that the conjugal life will be better, that is what Islam has advised. There is a clear answer that such relationship becomes more strong and secondly have same faith and understanding and the bond becomes “Najeeb-u-Tarfeen” that both belong from same lineage. In the Holy Quran Allah (SWT) says “ O Prophet, indeed we have made lawful to you your wives to whom you have given their hand due compensation and those your right hand possesses from what Allah has returned to you of captives and the daughters of your paternal uncles and the daughters of your paternal aunts and the daughters of your maternal uncles and the daughter of your maternal aunts who emigrated with you and a believing women if she gives herself to the Prophet and if the prophet wishes to marry her, this is only for you, excluding the other believers. We certainly know that we have made obligatory upon them concerning their wives and those their right hands possess, but this is for you in order that there will be upon you no discomfort. And ever is Allah forgiving and Merciful” Surah Ahzaab. In a Hadith “Hazrat Aisha (May Allah pleased with her) states that the Prophet Muhammad (PBHU) said “select good women from your generation, select girls from your “kufu” and give girls into your kufu”.
Islam is complete code of life so giving priority to our own relative is our religious obligation. If our own relative shows poor response regarding marriage then no harm to go for other castes. Besides Almighty Allah (SWT) has directed we people to give priority to religious person, then lineage, then richness, after that beautifulness and afterwards caste.
The Hadith is quoted by Imam Ibni Majaa, Imam Ibni Hibaan. Another Hadith narrated by Abu Huraira (May Allah pleased with him), The Prophet (SAW) said A women is married for four things i:e Her wealth, Her family status, Her beauty, and Her religion. So you should marry the religious women, otherwise you will be losers. The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) have said, that you have to give priority to your own dynasties rather to go other dynasties. There is clear cut criteria when choosing a life partner in our own dynasties as we are fully familiar about his/her attributes and faults. Islam is complete code of life so giving priority to our own relative is our religious obligation. If our own relative shows poor response regarding marriage then no harm to go for other castes. Besides Almighty Allah (SWT) has directed we people to give priority to religious person, then lineage, then richness, after that beautifulness and afterwards caste.
