Children are the great source of joy and companionship. They make life sweet and after Allah they are the ones on whom the adults pins their hopes. Their blessings brings Rizq( sustenance), mercy and abundance of reward, but this depends on moral upbringing which will make them respectful, kind and a source of happiness. If the children have good attributes then they are truly source of joy for the life of adults. Allah describes them in holy Quran like this: “Wealth and sons are allurements (joys) of the life of this world” For this reason the Prophet Mohammad (SAW) used to pray for those whom he loved that Allah would grant them wealth and children in abundance. Ana’s(RA) reported a hadith that Prophet Mohammed (SAW) made a dua for him and said : “O’ Allah grant him wealth and children in abundance and bless him” (Bhukhari and Muslim). However if the parent neglect their children’s moral upbringing the result will be disastrous. Their children will be a source of annoyance, frustration and constant concern not to mention nights of sleep and days of worry. So all parents are responsible for proving their children with a sound Islamic education and upbringing based on noble characteristics. Biggest responsibility is thrown in the lap of mother among all family members. The lap is warm and gracious to look after the children as this is naturally bridged and developed affectionate relationship. In family mother is called the mentor of children then it could be never wrong and undue as she understands the psychology of the children and knows how to deal with them. The mother is always close to the children in all ways and showing every kind of patience even when the children show disobedience and annoyance. She cares and loves them and does not use abusing and accusing language against them. The primary duty that mother does with their children is expression of her love, mercy and obedience so that they show confidence in her. The mother doesn’t not care the discomforts of her nights when she uses to lay her child on dried part of the bed and herself sleeps on the excretional fluids and at times on fecal matter.
Children after crossing the age of adulthood are ready to marry and shoulder the huge responsibilities of family but don’t forget the mother to pay special homage and nourishment at her old age when health issues push her into a state of helplessness.
The mother leaves her day schedule including culinary activities and prefers to treat and nourish her children; even she doesn’t care about day meals and breakfast.
During the early years of childhood the children need proper care and management as they grow like little seedlings in the green garden which at regular hours need water and proper surveillance. With the hectic work schedules at times she becomes unable to spend quality time with their children and in the process expects educational institutions to take total responsibility of their children. When something radically goes wrong in a family atmosphere there is a danger of criminal tendencies creeping into children and the end result is that criminals and dacoities are born. The most important thing that mother should do is to use affectionate and lovable upbringing of her children. Mother should not neglect any kind of promising and encouraging behaviour towards their children. Rightly said by some one: “Righteousness comes from Allah but good manners from mother” So mother has to play a key role to instruct the children morally. Prophet Mohammad (SAW) said” Instruct your children to pray when they are seven years of age and hit them when they are ten” Remember parents don’t teach them to pray but they teach them ethical values by words and actions. Children after crossing the age of adulthood are ready to marry and shoulder the huge responsibilities of family but don’t forget the mother to pay special homage and nourishment at her old age when health issues push her into a state of helplessness. She pins last hope on her children and receives regard and respect till her breath of life say goodbye.