A girl is a beautiful gift from God. Without her, the very basis of life is unthinkable. She is the foundation stone of humanity. She wears many faces like a daughter, sister, wife, et cetera. In every role, She is important. However, nowadays, girls are depressed. In the age of liberty, they are caught in a complicated situation. On one side, they want to live according to their wishes while on the other side, many causes, which we will discuss in the coming lines, stop them from pursue their dreams or somehow move freely. A girl has feelings. She wants to do what she feels good. She wants to nurture herself. Following irrational rules dictated by someone makes no sense. Why is girl the soft target of everything? The first is the family pressures. The family stops a girl from doing this and that. Some activities are welcomed while the majority are abhorred. The elder brothers have their sets of rules which they implement in their sisters’ lives, though they don’t themselves follow them. In this manner, girls’voices are choked. She can’t live her life. The second is the orthodox society. In our orthodox society, girls are not treated at par with the boys. It is ingrained in our minds that girls are inferior than boys. In this wake, girls are unable to do what they are capable of doing. The third is religion. In our lives, religions have been distorted and misinterpreted to such an extent that all religions except a few call girls the source of evil and shame. If a girl is allowed to live, she has to obey the decrees of their masters. The fourth is education. Our educational system never gets tired of proclaiming that all girls and boys are same. However, on the ground, there is no such thing.
A mother has the most important role to play. She must understand her daughter and give her as freedom as possible. Last but not least, teen age girls must be given more attention than others. They want themselves to be understood. Instead of thrusting things onto them, their genuine demands have to be fulfilled. A soft corner for them in our hearts can do miracles. Overall, girls also have feelings. They have desires and want them to be fulfilled. Suppression of desires takes a negative turn at the end of the day.
Bias and misogyny prevail everywhere in our books. A girl is called dirty in some books. At some other places, she is degraded to such a level that she hardly looks a human being. Boys are advised to keep a distance from girls and vice versa. Girls are told to be bold. However, when she speaks her heart, she is not taken into account. When she defines her feelings for someone, she is taunted and sometimes beaten ruthlessly. In order to utilize the defunct energies of girls, they must be given opportunities. They must be understood. Their genuine desires must be taken into account. An atmosphere of understanding must be created so that petty issues don’t turn into major ones. Family must understand their girls. A mother has the most important role to play. She must understand her daughter and give her as freedom as possible. Last but not least, teen age girls must be given more attention than others. They want themselves to be understood. Instead of thrusting things onto them, their genuine demands have to be fulfilled. A soft corner for them in our hearts can do miracles. Overall, girls also have feelings. They have desires and want them to be fulfilled. Suppression of desires takes a negative turn at the end of the day.
(The author is a student from Khushipora, HMT, Srinagar . The views, opinions, facts, assumptions, presumptions and conclusions expressed in this article are those of the author and aren’t necessarily in accord with the views of “Kashmir Horizon”.)
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