There is no substitute for mother’s milk or mother’s love. No one can extract a bottle of motherly compassion. Her patience, kindness, willingness to sacrifice her own comforts, and her natural affinity for children and the children’s natural affinity for the mother– are the key to successful upbringing of children. A mother understands the children’s problem even when they cannot express it. She can uniquely sense their needs, both physical and emotional. She can satisfy some of these herself. There is a famous quote, ‘Mother is better than hundreds of teacher’ this means, mothers have a strong control on their child. Therefore, mothers have an important responsibility on their shoulders to set an example for their child. Sometimes it becomes difficult for the mothers. However, it is not perfection which Islam demands but a willingness to accept the responsibility for gesturing good behavior. Most importantly, a man will be picked up from his/her mother name on the Day of Qiyamah. Motherhood is the most difficult job. A mother has to look into different techniques and strategy for parenting. There are nowadays many Islamic magazines in which articles are published related to the upbringing of the children. Mothers must read it to increase the awareness. This surely helps in dealing a child from different tactics. “Command your children to make Salah (prayer)when they become seven years old, and spank them for it (Salah) when they become ten years old, and arrange their beds (to sleep) separately.”(Abu Dawud) However it is the responsibility of the mother to make the child punctual towards prayer and make him habitual to it. A mother should know what she expects from her child and then explain that to them.
The mothers are the guardian of the whole family at home. However, it is utmost duty of every child to respect their mothers. Since it is the Hadith of Allah’s messenger (SAW), “Be kind with your mother.” Therefore, a person will not enter paradise if he/she scorns the parents (mother).
The children must know what is expected from them. For example, if a mother ask a child to lay the table. And the child does not do because of laziness, it means the mother has not asked him in a proper way because the children do the way they feel better. At end, child is blamed for either doing it wrong or not doing it. Similarly goes in the academic, mother must explain what she wants her child to be. Every child is skilled in different professions. Almighty Allah has given children the ability to show the achievements. Prophet (SAW) says, “Human beings are like mines of gold and silver.” Many of the mothers compare their child with another one, which is simply wrong. As I mentioned above every children has the ability to hold great achievement. This act of mother takes many children towards depression, and they get tensed. Instead of it, mothers must rectify their weaknesses and develop the skills in which the child is good. The mothers have the capability to either give a better future to the child or to damage it. So if we sum up the whole topic we understand, the mothers are the guardian of the whole family at home. However, it is utmost duty of every child to respect their mothers. Since it is the Hadith of Allah’s messenger (SAW), “Be kind with your mother.” Therefore, a person will not enter paradise if he/she scorns the parents (mother). Allah says in Sura Luqman: And We have enjoined man in respect of his parents – his mother bears him with faintings upon faintings, and his weaning takes two years – saying : “Be grateful to Me and to both your parents, to Me is the eternal coming. And in Sura Ahqaf it is said: And We have enjoined on man doing of good to his parents; with troubles did his mother bear him and with troubles did she bring him forth; and the bearing and the weaning of him was thirty months.
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