Be Kind To Your Parents

Let me begin with the provoking thought and religious belief, ” Parents are the door to the Paradise. Our salvation is hidden inside them and we shall seek it.” There is no doubt in the fact that our Parents are the adorable, pious and sacred gift to us from Almighty Allah. It would not be wrong if we say, they are next to God. Parents are the real, actual and the true guardians who gave birth to us and nurtured us. Before I penned down my take on this beautiful and sacred subject matter. Let me begin with the beautiful saying of Alama Iqbal (RA).
“Apnay Mann Mee Doob Kar Pa Ja Suragay Zindagee,
Tu Agar Mera Nhi Banta Na Ban,
Par Apna Toh Ban!!!
Parents are the reason of our existence and survival. That is why it is said that they are next to God. A person can never feel the happiness of a parent until he himself becomes a parent. They are the precious gift of God to mankind. They are the makers of our destination. A child’s destiny is written with the hard work, enduring blood and sweat of father and mother. They sacrifice their ever happiest moments for the joy of their children. When a child takes birth, parents start to think about his future, they start to save for his future, they set plans for his future, they begin to arrange a sort of good things for him out of nowhere. In short I can say they don’t want to see their children in any problem. They want to give them a safe and secure future. Parents are really next to God for a child. They sold themselves by taking huge debts in order to provide comfortable life to their child. Sometimes they don’t eat full stomach, as they wanted to save even a single morsel for their children. They gave their child full freedom in choosing their career. They always say yes to their child’s decision and respect their feelings and emotions. If a child gets late in reaching home, parents start to stumble and never ever go inside their homes until their child reaches home safely. Seeing their children happy, they felt happiness. In reality they are in deep pain every moment because of their ultimate sacrifices. It wouldn’t be wrong, if I say that parents are the destiny writers of their children. They never complain to their quarries but in turn always remain curious about their future. If a child is not good in studies or in any other field of life, parents do not scroll them for this purpose. They always think that their child is the best of all. On the other hand, sometimes, we felt that our parents interfere in our personal matters. We felt that they insisted us to do things of their own interest and choice. We feel bored and exhausted from their decision making.
Does it mean that they do it deliberately to snatch our happiness? No, not at all. Does it mean that they don’t bother about our sentiments, emotions and feelings. Shall they wanted to suppress us with their own decision making. No doubt, there are certain instances, when a child wants to go in a particular field which may not be a perfect choice of the parents, then with in no seconds parents totally oppose this decision. They don’t even think once about the capabilities of the child .Why some parents always hesitate in giving some privacy to their children. Yes, Parents should keep an eagles eye on their kids as they could indulge in any wrong activity but they should not become a spy of their own children. Parents took a second thought if a girl wants to go for higher studies. Some parents are so resist in their decision making. They don’t give their children any kind of choice while deciding their own future courses. They want that their children should remain loyal to them at the cost of prejudice and suppression. Nowadays, Children are very open-minded and they can’t be tied off with the chains of narrow mindedness. Some parents adhere that their children should always accept them and should say yes to them every time.
I just want to quote here the beautiful couplet in urdu literary version. “koun rakhega yaad hume is daure Khudgarzi Mai ,
Halaat aisai hain ki logoun ko Khuda Yaad nhi”
I have many questions and quarries? Our parents are not our servants. They are our role models, they nurture us, transform us into a perfect human being. If your mother or father comes to your room, this does not mean they are spying at you. They only want to spend some time with you, they wanted to know you, feel you and make you happy. They want to see, are you alright or do not you need anything from them. My dear friends, parents do not want a luxurious life from their children, the only one thing they need is some few minutes of your busy schedule. Our parents always spend less on themselves so that children can get enough for their future. If they are our guardians of our childhood, can’t we become the guardians of their old age? If parents could provide us a comfortable life when we were infants, why cannot a working age group people give a comfortable life to them? Why we torture, hurt their sentiments in their old age?
Our parents always do their best to give us comfortable life by saving a small small penny. They did not spend on themselves from their own property. They always think if they will sell some portion of their property then what is going to remain there for their children. A child is a ray of hope, a ray of sunshine for his parents and please for God’s sake let their hopes remain content. May our parents became among the people of Paradise. (Aameen!) I am concluding this narrative with my take that we need to introspect our inner consciousness. Our society should recognize its precious output and should know how to utilize them in a proper manner. Human resources if channelised on the right directions can create miracles. Both parents and children should know their positions and responsibilities. A real parenting is the need of the hour and this will bridge the gap of conservatism and prejudice.
(The author is a freelancer and writes on contemporary social issues. The views, opinions, facts, assumptions, presumptions and conclusions expressed in this article are author’s own and aren’t necessarily in accord with the views of “Kashmir Horizon”.)
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