How not to deal properly with your children!

One amongst the multitude of social responsibilities, that distinguish humans from myriad other forms of life on this planet, is proper parenting. Taking care of the physical requirements is a common form of nourishing one’s offspring that the animals, even wild ones, have been shouldering successfully and properly since ages. What signifies the special quality of human parenting is a meticulous consideration based on the pedestal of equity rather than equality. Over focusing on one and giving a feel of one’s being favourite and special encourages an ugly curtain of jealousy and neurosis to get drawn between the siblings. An unwanted rivalry gets conceived and takes birth in the form of tantrums and depression. At times analogies drawn between the siblings destroys their inborn talent and individuality. They forget that every individual is born with unique talent and lives on the line of his own abilities and capabilities. Overtaxing their minds is adverse to their mental well-being. Three Idiots was intended to rid the society of this menace. Parents should give a free hand to their children in order that they may emerge as victorious out of the challenging situations they encounter. Proper parenting guarantees posterity with enterprising capacity to take initiative in the sphere and arena they have flair in. Thrusting on the children an unhealthy and incompatible ideology entails failure of mental machinery. Proper parenting minimises the hostile feelings and jealous impulses among the siblings. Every child has his own physical, mental and intellectual texture that he can construct his own future edifice on with healthy results. A good parent must have the understanding that a squirrel can crack a nut while a mountain carries too heavy a burden over it. Five different fingers make a hand to hold things, likewise siblings with different traits and qualities make a good family _a heavenly home.
Parents should probe the latent abilities of the children and burnish them to the best possible degree but equally, thinking every different ability complementary to each other not contrasting. Proper parental care also demands a healthy relationship between the spouses as such it has insidious impact upon the developing brains of the children. Like Paul Morrel of Sons and Lovers , children fall prey to the unhealthy relationship between incompatible relationship of parents. Proper parenting ought to ensure that the self-respect and sense of pride of the children should remain intact. Children should be shown not only what to learn but how to learn effectively since parental approach is seminal to the moulding of future of the children. At all phases of their Intellectual metamorphosis parents should be unbiased and unprejudiced to ensure their striving for perfection in whichever field they walk in , in future. It is an example of poor and low parenting to promote the interests of those children only that satisfy the whimsical dictations of parents. Proper nurturing and nourishing is watering the roots not twigs for healthy fructification of thoughts. Proper parentings teach children how to be flexible in rigid times and how to get going tough in the times of going getting tough. Parents have this obligation of guiding children how to channelize their emotions and sensibility in the turbulent times to come, which have become the common lot of common person nowadays. Working in this vein will make one a best parent, parenting a best offspring.
(The author is Lawyer at J&K High Court. Views expressed are exclusively her own)
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