Allah Almighty has made the man the guardian of the woman but as you know, if you make someone the guardian of any nation or group from the worldly point of view, then he has to fulfill many responsibilities with himself. Similarly man is appointed as the guardian of woman , and the man also has a lot of responsibilities . If the man fails to fulfill them, then he does not deserve to be called the guardian. Our beloved Prophet (Pbuh) said: The most perfect believer is one who is good in morals and kind to his family and in another place Prophet (Pbuh) said that,” Allah created you from a man (Adam) and from him made his wife. (Surah Annisa) Therefore men and women are all equal in being human”. Here, for a man his masculinity is not a source of pride, nor his femininity a disgrace to a woman. Here both man and woman are human and as human beings both individually are great masterpieces of nature in terms of their creation and attributes. Although Adam was given superiority over all creatures And women have an equal share in the exaltation given to Adam as a human being. Our beloved Prophet (Pbuh) has taught us the best ways to live our married life, which if we strive to fulfill them wholeheartedly, can eliminate many of the superstitions prevailing in someones married life.
Feeding the wife with love, the Messenger of Allah(Pbuh )said, “You will be rewarded for whatever you spend, even for the morsel you put in your wife’s mouth.” (mutafaq ealayh united in opinion)
Drinking the remaining water of the wife in love, It is narrated on the authority of Aisha (Ra ) that she said: “I used to drink water while I was menstruating, then I would give the remaining water to the Prophet (Pbuh ) and you would drink it with your mouth where I put it. I used to eat meat during menstruation and then give the leftover herb to the Prophet (Pbuh ) You would eat it with your mouth where I had put my mouth. ” (Saheeh Muslim)
Lie down with your head on your wife’s lap : Aisha (RA ) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Pbuh ) used to lie down on my lap and recite the Qur’an while I was menstruating”.(Mutafaq ealayh united in opinion)
Playing with wife and having fun : The Messenger of Allah(Pbuh ) said to Jabir bin Abdullah: “Why did you not marry a virgin girl (not divorced) If you played with her, she would play with you.” (Mutafaq ealayh united in opinion)
Enjoying the moment, It is narrated on the authority of Aisha (RA ) that I was with the Prophet (Pbuh ) on a journey and I was a minor at that time The Prophet (Pbuh ) said to his companions: Go ahead. When they came forward, you said to me: Come on, Let us both compete in the race. ” (Al silsalatul saheeh 254/1 )
Helping the wife with household chores : Hazrat Ayesha was asked: What did the Prophet (Pbuh ) do at home ? She said: “You were a human being. You cleaned your clothes, milked goats and did your own thing.” (Saheehul Adabul mufarid 4996)
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Keep your mouth clean Aisha (Pbuh ) said: When the Messenger of Allah (Pbuh ) entered the house, he used to start with a toothpick. (Sahih Muslim)
Applying Fragrance for wife, adornment: Ibn ‘Abbaas (RA ) said: “I love to adorn my wife as she adorns me.” (Musnif Ibni Abi shaibah)
Ignoring wife’s faults: The Prophet (Pbuh ) said: “No believing man should hate his believing wife. If he dislikes any of her attributes, he will certainly like some of them.” (Sahih Muslim)
If the wife is crying, comfort her and wipe away her tears; Hazrat Anas (RA ) said: Hazrat Safiyya (RA ) was with the Messenger of Allah (Pbuh ) on a journey. It was her turn that day. When she came, she was crying and said: You have put me on a very slow-moving camel. He wiped away their tears and began to silence them. (Sahih Al Nisai)
Do not find defects with your wife’s cooked food : Abu Hurairah (RA) said: “The Prophet (Pbuh ) never found fault with food. If you liked food, you would eat it or leave it. ” (Sahih Bukhari)
Appreciate and be greatful for his services it’s Narrated on behalf of the Hazrat Abu Hurairah: The Prophet said: He who does not thank People does not thank Allah. (Sahih ul Targeeb Wa Tarheeb 1976)
If the wife is ill take special care of her and incantation on her: It is narrated on the authority of Aisha (RA ) that she said: “When someone in the family of the Prophet (Pbuh ) was ill, you would recite Mu’awzaat (Sacred words) on him and incantation on him. ” (Sahih Muslim)
Kissing wife when he starts to go somewhere: Mother Aisha (RA ) said: The Prophet (Pbuh ) kissed one of his wives and then he went out to pray. He did not perform ablution again. ”
(Abu Dawood al-Tahaarah, 180, 179, 178 )
Helping a wife to obey Allah : May Allah have mercy upon a man who wakes up at night and prays, and awakens his wife. If she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face. May Allah have mercy upon a woman who wakes up at night and prays, and awakens her husband. If he refuses, she sprinkles water on his face (Sunan Abi Dawud 1450)
Honoring the wife’s family and friends
Aisha (RA ) says: “When the Messenger of Allah (Pbuh ) used to slaughter goats, he would find the companions of Hazrat Khadija (RA ) and send them as gifts (Sahih Al Tirmidhi).Be a solution to your spouse’s stress’, not the cause of their stress
(The author is Sr. Edp Head in DD Target PMT Parraypora . Views are his own)
