We come across many people everyday but not everyone can be called a friend. And we must remember that a person we have been talking to,for a long time can’t be called friend . We always confuse ourself with a person we know and friend. We can have many people we talk to but they all can’t be our friends. A friend will never leak your secret, he will never embrace you or will never do anything as such that will make you regret sharing things with the person or regretting even talking to that person for the first time. A friend is one who will never leaves you in any difficult situation even if whole world turns against you and will be by your side no matter what. Finding a friend is very difficult. We always end up putting ourselves in a situation where we regret making someone our friend , but it’s our own mistake that we land in this situation. We need to be careful about it. It’s a well known saying “Laugh with many but trust none”. We have to understand that we can even laugh with enemies but they laugh with purpose not by heart. They also smile on our success but that smile is full of jealous and hate. If I speak about friendship of today’s time they are almost materialistic or have some reason behind, which when gets done, the friendship ends . This isn’t what I have made up by my own but many people have told me that person XYZ was my friend till I had money or something now I don’t have it we no more are friends . And some people have even told me that person ABC made friendship with me because he wanted something to be done once that happened person ABC changed behaviour and we are no longer friends. And now these days’ people compare friends with snakes. Well that’s not a good thing to do. Friends were believed to be even more close to brothers, are being compared with snakes as dangerous as cobra who’s bite will get killed easily. How bad and sad about the people who have made this sweet thing so strange that some people now don’t want to even speak about it. But in this selfish world some people find really true and great friend. Who stand by them and see their success as own success and celebrate it as if it’s their own success and eventually get so close as if they are brothers. The fights between them are just time being as they can’t live without speaking to each other and seeing each other. The friendship isn’t done it happens, Unlike Relationships which is always made to happen with many efforts to impress each other. A great scholar Aristotle says about friendship “A single soul dwelling in two bodies” and Rumi says “If you are looking for fautless friend you will be friendless” . True, a friend may have many faults but when you accept a person with all those faults and accept them in public and correct them in private you get a perfect friend. The most annoying thing of today’s friendships is that they end because of “Relationship” one ship ends because of another ship. I find it pointless to make someone give on friends especially best friend , the same best friend who was there for him/her when his/her boyfriend or girlfriend wasn’t there. This has become a point to prove the “love”. This is so pointless and nonsensical because this holds no grounds.
Many people came, made many claims about being people who will stand with me come what may but they were the first ones to run away whenever I came across any difficult situation . On the other hand he stood with me in my difficult situations and always told me that this too shall pass. In these times I am lucky to have friend like you Hanaan (Abdul Hanaan khan) .
I feel sorry for those who feel proud when they make give up someone his / her friend/s or best friend/s. Like how do you expect loyalty from the person who gave up his/her friend/s or best friend/s . And then they say “She / he cheated me for some new guy” . Wait you taught him/her this, that too in the beginning of your relationship. And unfortunately after breakups they go back to the same best friend they had given up for relationship. And friends easily accept an iota of doubte about loyalty. People feel love goes through challenges but ever thought about friendship. No never. But if you speak about me I make sure that my friend/s especially my best friend/s don’t get in a toxic relationship/s where they are supposed to do such thing/s . Because i know it’s none other than me who has to handle them. Well nonetheless in these times when you get a friend who tolerates your childish behaviour it’s no less than a blessing. In these times when a person is fed up with his day today things but tolerates your childish behaviour without any complaints is something what you should be thankful about it . And I feel lucky to a friend like such . I came across his tik tok on Instagram and it was a sudden follow. After few days i visited my school where I studied my 11th and 12th and look at the co-incident i saw him . But I wasn’t able to recognise him, but that was the start of the great friendship. As I reached home I checked his profile and messaged him on his Instagram so that I get a confirmation. He replied after couple of hours , I thought he just did it to show me I don’t check my messages but with time I got to know that he’s really annoying. And it was on the first day we shared number and for about an hour we spoke on call. And that was the first and the last day we spoke for that long time. And after couple of days we decided to meet to which he agreed readily . He hasn’t changed since then he’s still the same what changed is the bound between us that has become so strong. The most important thing of this friendship is that . He’s really straight forward and never keeps anything in his heart , he says whatever he feels and he wants to. But the annoying part is he’s lazy and he’s very bad at plan execution . We have decided to go to Gulmarg back in 2019 before Ramdhan and till date it’s just a plan not even a single step from him to get it done. All he does is posts edited pics and makes sure he’s looking good to sit and home. The most difficult thing is to get him out of his house. It takes week to finally get him agreed for an outing. But whatever he tolerates my childish behaviour and has never complained about it. Many people came, made many claims about being people who will stand with me come what may but they were the first ones to run away whenever I came across any difficult situation . On the other hand he stood with me in my difficult situations and always told me that this too shall pass. In these times I am lucky to have friend like you Hanaan (Abdul Hanaan khan) . I owe you so much. Thank you for being a true times in the times when it has become difficult to even trust anyone.
“I love my friend neither with my heart nor with my mind
Just in case……
Heart might stop . Mind can forget.
I love you with my soul. Soul never stops nor forgets” . ~Rumi~
( The author is a freelancer and frequently writes for “Kashmir Horizon”. Views are his own)